If You Love Her, Don’t Destroy Her

“If I ever loved a woman, the more I loved her, the more I wanted to hurt her. Frida was only the most obvious victim of this disgusting trait.”  ~  Diego Rivera

A healthy, happy relationship can transform into a destructive one if you treat her less than she deserves to be treated.

Nonetheless, the best way to keep your love smoldering is by casting every ray of awareness every time you look at her. This awareness is what will keep your relationship strong for a long time.

Remember how she looked when you first saw her. She was everything you longed for; beautiful, her wild nature or her sense of humor. There’s something about her that awed you and you never found in someone else.

If you truly love her, keep her this way. Keep her beautiful, keep her wild, keep her complete.

While she’s the master of her own fate, its better if you understood how much you mean to her. How you treat her determines how she views herself—you can make her shine or make her feel lost. She’s a beautiful flower, yours only to behold but she also hopes that you hold her gently, taking care not to destroy her.

Know that she has been hurt before and she never wants to go through a similar experience again. If she’s with you, know that she has stepped over her fear and insecurities to be with you. She has put her past aside to give love another chance, she hopes that it won’t be a disappointment.

The moment you begin to think that you understand her is the moment you’ll start losing her. She’s something yet to be discovered—so live every day as if you’re meeting her for the first time.

Be present. Nothing destroys her more than your emotional absence. You can sit with her all day long and not really be there, yet you can be so far away and be completely present.

Know that it’ll wreck her if she ever felt you need her rather than want her. if you only love her when loneliness creeps up on you then you don’t deserve her at all because, for her, nothing substitutes you. She longs to be with you even when fears and insecurities set in

Even though your own past sufferings may take its toll on you, don’t love her just so she can carry your emotional baggage with you. Don’t love her if you only want her to fix you. Because she will, with time, without you even knowing.

Her love and existence will heal every part of you. Just be careful not to mistake her kindness for weakness.

She wants to be reassured that your actions towards her will always be motivated by love and kindness. Don’t treat her like a broken woman. She is complete with all her pieces, even though they may still be scattered everywhere. Embrace them with her—just don’t add to them.

If you choose to love her, accept her with all her flaws and insecurities. She is as imperfect as you are and she only hopes to share that imperfection with you. She wants to undress her soul in front of you and be utterly herself.

If you love her, build her up because she will be doing the same for you. Know that whatever effort you put in, she will be putting in double.